It’s The Little Things!

Simple things you do can make a big impact on your relationship!

It’s easy now days to fall in to complacency. We’ve been there. The days seem to repeat themselves. You feel bored. You don’t take time for yourselves. There are a few things you can do to help overcome complacency.

My father taught me to never go to bed mad. It’s true. why wait and stew on an argument or feeling? Open communication is needed in all relationships. Tell them how you feel. Apologize, even though it may be hard to admit a fault or have a conversation about something upsetting. You should owe it to yourself to get your feelings out and discuss the situation. No matter what side you take.

First thing. Turn off your electronics. Look in each other’s eyes and have a conversation. Make sure you have each other’s undivided attention. There will be time for your phones later. Make sure you include all family members.

Always say “Good Night.” Erin and I always say good night. I’ve started to make a game of it. She expects it. Erin would always say goodnight first, since I instantly fall asleep as soon as I hit the pillow. So now I always wait for her to start charging her phone and then I can always count on her to say, “Papa?” Then there is long pause, acting like I am already asleep, and then I giggle and say “goodnight.” It may be funnier in person.

Always Say “I love you.” Live for today. Tomorrow is never promised. Say it at night. Say it when you have to leave for the day. Text it randomly. Say it when you see each other at the end of the day. Say it before bed. Say it when they are feeling down.
Leave love notes or drawings!
Take a day off together and go on a date. It doesn’t have to be expensive or exciting. Just make the day about you two. Try for one date a month at the least!
Have a random evening where you listen to music and dance in the living room. If you aren’t alone, invite the kids! It’s a great way to get rid of their energy!

Sing a song to your partner. Who cares if you don’t have a singing voice!

Flirt! Tease and joke with each other like you use to when you were falling in love! Random little gifts can help too! 💝
Netflix and chill while cuddling or holding hands. There is something to say about human contact! It sets our feel good chemicals in our brain on fire! It may even lead to another type of fire!